Class with Kate

Sarah and Tiah are living in different parts of the world—but asking the same question: How do you protect your kids when you can’t leave an abusive relationship?
In this first Office Hours episode, we get honest about what survival actually looks like when escape isn’t an option. This isn’t about perfect parenting—it’s about doing what’s possible inside impossible circumstances.
You’ll learn:
What actually helps kids feel safer (even when the environment isn’t)
How to emotionally support your child without overpromising or pretending
The biggest mistake parents make when trying to “buffer” abuse
How to stay grounded so your child has at least one regulated adult
If you feel stuck, trapped, or like there’s no “good” option—this episode is for you. You’re not crazy for struggling… but there are ways to show up differently for your kids, even here.
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There’s a growing trend of parents “cutting off” their kids in the name of boundaries. But when a parent fully walks away—it’s abandonment.
This episode breaks down the difference between distance and disappearance, and why parental responsibility doesn’t just expire.
In Office Hours, Leandro shares his struggle to figure out how to engage with his parents after their abuse—what it means to want connection, while also protecting himself.
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You don’t need to hide your emotions—but your kids shouldn’t have to carry them either.
In this episode, I show you how to actually feel your feelings without making your child responsible for them.
Learn how to stay honest, regulated, and grounded in real time using the BEND tool—so your emotions don’t turn into pressure, guilt, or fear for your kids.
This is the difference between modeling emotions… and offloading them.
In the second half of the episode, Office Hours, we meet with Jennifer who is struggling with pseudomutuality in her marriage. Our conversation answers the question, how do I manage my feelings towards my partner in front of my kids?
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If your house feels calm… but no one’s really honest, that’s not connection—that’s pseudomutuality.
In this episode, I break down how “keeping the peace” actually shuts kids down—and what to do instead.
Learn the BEND tool so you can regulate yourself in the moment instead of avoiding, snapping, or faking calm.
Real connection requires real emotion. This is how you handle it without losing control.
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Riley is doing everything “right”—marriage, motherhood, showing up. So why does she feel so stuck?
In this episode, we unpack:-The signs of needing change: irritation and snappiness -The quiet resentment and disconnection many women don’t say out loud -What it means to feel trapped without wanting to leave -Why talk therapy isn’t always enough—and how somatic work can help -Where to start when you feel disconnected from yourself In Office Hours, Riley begins to see that the issue isn’t just her circumstances: it’s how disconnected she’s become from her own body, needs, and voice. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Saying please and thank you in a relationship SOUNDS good right… but sometimes it can indicate something else: pseudomutuality. This is “fake closeness,” and over time, can erode real intimacy that is only achieved through conflict. Let’s talk about it!Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

If you’ve ever said “I’m sorry” but nothing really changed… this episode is for you. We’re breaking down the patterns that keep people stuck in harmful relationship cycles—fake niceness, performative apologies, and control disguised as care. These behaviors don’t repair trust—they quietly destroy it. In the second half of the class, “Office Hours,” we have a call with Judy, a therapist who is struggling to make the call in her marriage. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Why do some marriages normalize sarcasm, teasing, and subtle disrespect? In this episode, Kate explains how “joking” can become a way unhealthy marriage patterns survive for years without being confronted. Office hours features Ray, who is struggling with distance from his teenage daughter after behavior that caused harm—and the hard truth about rebuilding trust when a child pulls away. Ray has an “aha” moment that anyone can benefit from. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

What happens when your child wants a relationship with the people who hurt you? This episode answers key questions about pseudohostility, then Pearl shares the painful reality of cutting off her parents while trying to decide whether her son should have access to them. How do you protect without overcontrolling—and when do you let a child learn for themselves? Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Is your marriage peaceful—or just emotionally shut down? In this episode, we break down how pseudohostility and pseudomutuality create fake connection while real issues stay buried. Then Justine shares what happened after standing up to her father and becoming the family scapegoat. Why does speaking the truth create so much self-doubt—and how do you trust yourself when your family treats you like the problem? Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com