Class with Kate

Is your marriage peaceful—or just emotionally shut down? In this episode, we break down how pseudohostility and pseudomutuality create fake connection while real issues stay buried. Then Justine shares what happened after standing up to her father and becoming the family scapegoat. Why does speaking the truth create so much self-doubt—and how do you trust yourself when your family treats you like the problem? Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Trauma is often created in ordinary family moments—through fear, silence, emotional inconsistency, and lack of repair.
The first half of this episode explores the family habits that protect children, reduce harm, and break generational cycles before they repeat. The second half involves a caller, Sam, who needs help doing this with her kids. And Kate’s advice might surprise you. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

In this episode, Mary shares her experience of divorce after 38 years of marriage following betrayal, secrecy, and blackmail involving her husband’s hidden life.
She also talks about the painful distance that developed with her adult children after the divorce, and the grief of feeling caught between her own healing and their loyalty to their father.
We explore long-term betrayal, family fracture, and what it means to rebuild when both marriage and family relationships have been deeply shaken.Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Suppressed anger rarely stays hidden—it often comes out as judgment, criticism, and control. In this episode, we explore why this dynamic shows up so often in family systems, especially between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law.Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

This episode was inspired by recent TikTok videos showing harsh, highly controlling parenting with boys—and it raises a serious question: Does authoritarian parenting create emotionally unsafe men?
We explore how fear-based control, emotional suppression, and rigid power structures in childhood can shape adult anger, attachment, and abuse.
When boys are taught obedience over emotional development, what follows later in relationships?Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Jessica shares what it feels like to begin healing while experiencing painful flashbacks, intense body symptoms, and emotional overwhelm.
We discuss why early healing can activate buried pain, how somatic symptoms often emerge during deeper emotional work, and what it means to stay grounded while the nervous system begins responding differently.
Topics include healing, trauma, flashbacks, somatic symptoms, emotions, and nervous system responses.Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Robin shares her story of sibling abuse and the long-term impact of growing up in a family where harm was minimized and protection was missing. We discuss how sibling abuse is often overlooked, how parental neglect shapes emotional development, and why unaddressed family trauma continues affecting adult relationships. Topics include sibling abuse, childhood trauma, family systems, neglect, and healing. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

There is growing conversation around nervous system regulation, but not all uses of that language lead to deeper freedom. In this video, I discuss how regulation can sometimes be confused with emotional compliance, especially for women who have learned to override what they feel in order to maintain peace. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Yesterday we had caller Beth who is really stuck in her situation. As a reminder, she is newly postpartum and her husband doesn't have a job. Where did her anger go? Why doesn't she feel it? And what can we learn from her situation?
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Beth calls in with a wild scenario. She is newly postpartum, and her husband has been out of work for 2 years. Now she's given him an ultimatum. But where has her anger been the whole time, and what does Kate tell her to do next?? Find out here....
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