The Gray Area

Putting your self-healing in relational contexts- estrangement, marriage/partnership, and parenting Kate Gray, LMFT @codependencykate Find me on TikTok, Instagram, and Youtube @CodependencyKate

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Episodes

38 minutes ago

In this episode I'll answer people's submitted questions!
1. How do I help my 15/17 year olds detach and have their own boundaries?
2. How do I help my 18 year old with anxiety?
3. My adult daughter is blaming me for her relationship problems, where do I go from here?
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Tuesday Jun 24, 2025

In this episode I talk about revelations I've had this week... specifically about the role of "enmeshment" in issues of estrangement. In summary, enmeshment is the heart of EVERYTHING relationship problems and I believe MOST people are enmeshed. I explain what it is, what it looks like, how I believe it came to be, and examples of it/what to do about it. It is not the end for you!!!
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Tuesday Jun 17, 2025

Intellectualizing is what is holding you back in your relationships! It can show up as defensiveness or being "logical" when the situation calls for presence, attunement, compassion and curiosity. It can hold you back in your relationship with your KIDS especially! Learn everything you need to know to change this behavior so you can finally learn the felt sense of connection. 
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Sunday Jun 08, 2025

In this podcast we put a pause on Conversations with Sierra to address the videos I posted this week! I'll get into the 4 skills of emotion regulation to prevent crashouts (self-compassion, BEND, hate lists, and forecasting your emotional weather) rumination, emotional eating, gratitude, and BRIEFLY financial generosity and emotional negligence. It is not a very organized episode, just a lot of me yapping!! But I hope you find some value and I plan to make these more put together in the future :)
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Tuesday Jun 03, 2025

This is part 1 of Conversations with Sierra. Sierra is a vibrant, intelligent, goofy 25 year old who happens to be estranged from her mother. This is not necessarily uncommon in this day and age but the part of it that is...is that her mother posts about this estrangement online. Hear the story of how Sierra grew up, what led to the estrangement, and how she's found peace today. If you are struggling with your estrangement, she hopes to be an example of how it doesn't have to define you, no matter how extreme it is and becomes.
Sierra is on TikTok @orthsierra8
Find this episode on YouTube, Podbean, and Spotify. If you have any questions for Sierra or want to know more, leave a comment and we'll be sure to cover it in Part 2!

Tuesday Jan 24, 2023

Kate sits down with fellow TikToker Sister Kathryn, a Muslim author and mom of 5. They initially did not have a very pleasant interaction, but wanted to turn it into a learning experience for others. Watch the TikTok that started it all, and then listen in as they discuss what therapists need to know about their Muslim clients. 
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Wednesday Nov 16, 2022

part 3/3 of the Class with Kate series on "being"
With all the tragedy and loss happening in the world, learning to just "be" kind of doesn't make sense. It doesn't seem useful or helpful.. like, what's the point? Well, I argue that life is about more than productivity and "doing." And "being" does NOT mean escaping to the mountaintop like a monk. Find out what it can mean for you and make sure to listen and give feedback on this episode's insta post.
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Tuesday Nov 15, 2022

Do you identify with the term "empath" but are not sure what to make of it? If not "empath," what about highly sensitive person (HSP), codependent, or anxious attachment? If you've REALLY scoured the internet, you might've come up with the term "enmeshed." If any of these apply to you, you might struggle with boundaries and standing up for yourself. But the good news is, this is NOT YOUR FAULT. Listen in as we delve into the practical origins of empaths, and how to evolve if it's not working for you. 
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Monday Nov 14, 2022

Do you not know how to just "be"? Does it feel either overwhelming or empty when you sit down and take a second to relax? If so, you are NOT alone- it is so common for high-functional people to go to therapy after feeling this way. But DON'T WORRY, this is fixable! Let's get you your "sauce" back.
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Sunday Nov 13, 2022

Welcome to all the new listeners!
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